DJ Tanner is Going to Make Us All Real Sad Today
1/7/2014 10:00 AM PST, by Emily Trainham
Sorry if you had this beautiful image in your mind of DJ Tanner leaving her wacky family to go off to college and become a strong, independent woman or whatever. Sorry if you expected your childhood sitcom hero to grow up cool. Or, you know, sorry if you thought it was the 21st century and all. Because our dear DJ, or Candace Cameron, if you're into things like reality, just ruined basically everything.
This whole thing started because Candace just wrote a book called "Balancing It All: My Story of Juggling Priorities and Purpose," and this is a quote from that:
"I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work."
And that ruffled some feathers, because honestly, you guys, it's 2014 and ladies don't have to just agree with everything their husbands say in order to have a successful marriage. But hey, if that ruffled your own personal feathers, then check out this great big clarification she made during an interview on HuffPost Live:
"The definition I'm using with the word 'submissive' is the biblical definition of that. So, it is meekness, it is not weakness. It is strength under control, it is bridled strength. And that's what I choose to have in my marriage. Listen, I love that my man is a leader. I want him to lead and be the head of our family and those major decisions do fall on him. It doesn't mean I don't voice my opinion and it doesn't mean I don't have an opinion—I absolutely do but it is very difficult to have two heads of authority. It doesn't work...And when you're competing with two heads that can pose a lot of problems or issues. So within my marriage we are equal in our importance. But we are different in our performances in our marriage."
Candace, girl, are you ready to get your mind blown? Are you even prepared for this? OK, go find a dictionary, or even pull up Google. Are you ready? Now look up the definition of the word "compromise." BOOM. Welcome to a new era, sister. It's gonna make your life so much easier and, you know, equal.