here are my thoughts on 'victim blaming'. i realize that not everyone is going to agree with my opinions and thats fine; i can handle it. people disagree with me all the time.
i consider that statement "jennifer lawrence deserved what she got for being a stupid slut and daring to have a sex life " victim blaming. and believe me i read alot of those comments over the past few weeks.
however the above mentality is entirely different than saying " we live in a dangerous world filled with criminals who do not care about respecting your boundaries. that is why we need to take preventative measures to keep ourselves safe. we put locks on our doors, we dont let toddlers play outside unattended, ect. " i wish that everyone in the world would automatically treat me and my family with kindness and respect. but that would be me burying my head in the sand and refusing to see the world as it actually is. i can suggest to someone ways to keep themselves safe, but there is no disdain or contempt in my words and it is not my intention to blame the victim or shame her in any way.
yeah, thats where i am on this. i dont believe saying people need to take measures to protect themselves = victim shaming. jennifer is still a young woman who seems very intelligent. we all learn with time and experience that people do horrible things to one another all the time. for example, we live in an extremely dangerous city full of people who break the law and dont give a damn about respecting anyone's boundaries or privacy. if someone breaks into my mother's house, im not going to blame her or tell her she deserved it. she's the victim, she's not at fault. im mad at the asshole who broke into her house and i hope he or she goes to jai. but you better believe im going to be over there the next day putting more locks on the door.
Angelina Jolie went through the intense pain of losing her mother to cancer and Im sure wants to spare her children the same painful experience. She can do whatever the fuck she wants with her own body in order to prevent that and none of us have to like or agree with it.
yeah, my parents saved that kind of stuff too and i know theyre not the only ones. they also had locks of my and my siblings hair. its not that unusual.
he's sixteen. i make it a habit not to publicly pick on children.