While I generally find her to be faker than a Gucci knockoff, I think her words are being taken out of context. For anyone who's been in a relationship, partners sometime say no. There's a difference between "mmm not right now honey I'm tired" and "stop and back the f*ck off me". As women, we're often so exhausted from the millions of things we have to do that keeping the relationship spicy is on the bottom of our list. All I think she was advocating was for a guy to really work hard to turn his woman on. For the man to do the work and show his woman that he wants her. Spontaneity can turn her on. She isn't advocating for sexual/domestic violence.