Quotables: Ethan Hawke Has Some More Idiotic Words to Say Today

12/2/2013 5:00 PM PST, by

"People have such a childish view of monogamy and fidelity. 'He's cheated so he's bad, she's cheated so she's bad', as opposed to a recognition that our species is not monogamous. To act all indignant, that your world has been rocked because your lover wasn't faithful to you, is a little bit like acting rocked that your hair went grey. I am [monogamous], but in Before Midnight there is the threat of sexual attraction to others and maintaining your sexual identity with your partner over a long period of time. Human beings are sexual beings. My relationship with my present wife is thrilling to me and I'm committed to it. But neither she nor I know what shape the future will come in. Sexual fidelity can't be the whole thing you hang your relationship on. If you really love somebody you want them to grow, but you don't get to define how that happens. They do."

--Ethan Hawke explains how all of humankind works to the poor people from Mr. Porter.

Isn't it so great that Ethan knows all of this about our entire species though? It's like, whoa, so many of us have been living in monogamy, thinking that we like it or that it works for us, when actually, in reality, it is totally OK and understandable if we cheat on our partners. Not if we have an open relationship, mind you, but if we cheat. Because that's just how people grow, and if you really love someone, you'll understand if they cheat on you.

Aren't we just so lucky that Ethan took the time out of his day to explain all this to us? Now go out and grow, you insatiable humans! 


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135 days ago

I think his comments are just incredibly sad

Tuco The Ugly
135 days ago

Jocelyn...juat do jew expect, eat ees writen by ha fucking idiot by the name of Emily Trannyhand.

This place gets worse by the day.

*wiggles penis

135 days ago

It's these sort of comments that make you understand why Uma left him.

135 days ago

He is actually making an incredibly intelligent statement with regards to it. Our species chooses monogamy as the cornerstone to a healthy relationship, because as of this century, we are more emotionally involved in who we marry. It wasn't always so, and for longer than it is currently. blah blah etc

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127 days ago

I find his comment refreshingly reflective. People tend to conceptualize relationships as this mythical state of completeness, where all desires are met and all needs are provided by their partner. This simply isn't true. You never stop being a unique individual with desires and needs that fluctuate overtime. I don't think Ethan is advocating cheating. I think he is saying that he is with someone and committed to the experience that they are having together, however as an individual there may come a day when a certain (sexual) need or desire isn't being met. That isn't a strange or offensive notion. And it isn't disturbing for it to be acknowledged aloud. What would be offensive is if he doesn't communicate the missing need to his partner and goes to fulfill it without her consent (unless they have some prior understanding). That is the basis of a true relationship, when you understand that moral agency is not defined by society at large, but only by the people involved in that specific dynamic.