DJ Tanner is Going to Make Us All Real Sad Today

1/7/2014 10:00 AM PST, by

Sorry if you had this beautiful image in your mind of DJ Tanner leaving her wacky family to go off to college and become a strong, independent woman or whatever. Sorry if you expected your childhood sitcom hero to grow up cool. Or, you know, sorry if you thought it was the 21st century and all. Because our dear DJ, or Candace Cameron, if you're into things like reality, just ruined basically everything.

This whole thing started because Candace just wrote a book called "Balancing It All: My Story of Juggling Priorities and Purpose," and this is a quote from that:

"I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work."

And that ruffled some feathers, because honestly, you guys, it's 2014 and ladies don't have to just agree with everything their husbands say in order to have a successful marriage. But hey, if that ruffled your own personal feathers, then check out this great big clarification she made during an interview on HuffPost Live:

"The definition I'm using with the word 'submissive' is the biblical definition of that. So, it is meekness, it is not weakness. It is strength under control, it is bridled strength. And that's what I choose to have in my marriage. Listen, I love that my man is a leader. I want him to lead and be the head of our family and those major decisions do fall on him. It doesn't mean I don't voice my opinion and it doesn't mean I don't have an opinion—I absolutely do but it is very difficult to have two heads of authority. It doesn't work...And when you're competing with two heads that can pose a lot of problems or issues. So within my marriage we are equal in our importance. But we are different in our performances in our marriage."

Candace, girl, are you ready to get your mind blown? Are you even prepared for this? OK, go find a dictionary, or even pull up Google. Are you ready? Now look up the definition of the word "compromise." BOOM. Welcome to a new era, sister. It's gonna make your life so much easier and, you know, equal.
Filed Under:  Candace Cameron , Interview

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874 days ago

That's her faith. Leave it alone. If you don't have it you will never understand. If she chooses to abide be the biblical definition of marriage, good on her for having a conviction. Bet her marriage is a lot better and will last a lot longer than others. Compromise has it's place but sometimes in a marriage, although there is compromise there is also resentment for having to compromise.

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874 days ago

Who are you to judge? If this is how her marriage works, it's how it works. Maybe it makes her HAPPY to not be the one in charge. Some people like their significant others to take the reins in a relationship.

874 days ago

Emily Trainham is the worst writter. Every time I open a fishwrapper article and it's filled with negative and very JUDGEMENTAL thoughts its almost always written by Emily Trainham!! She really needs to get a life outside this so called job and realize that her opinions are awful. She thinks everyone is wrong for saying anything. Her titles are always "you're going to really hate this person now"..."Blah Blah said something terrible" and then u open the article and realize that it's Emily Trainham who is awful! Fishwrapper needs to get some staff who actually like celebrities and are more open minded instead of ridiculing every celebrity and twisting everything they say or do.

874 days ago

I don't know whether to applaud her for staying true to her religious beliefs and for her ability to choose a role that works for her or to pity her for thinking that being a woman needs to mean being submissive.

874 days ago

Two things I'm gonna say about this:

* After seeing him played for the Canadians, it seems to me that calling Valeri Bure a 'leader' is a big ol' stretch. It's like saying last week's weather in the East wasn't that cold - a damn stretch. Then again, maybe the guy is different in his family life - I wouldn't know.

* The most important thing to remember, though: the Bures have been marrying since 1996. Almost 20 freaking years. And one of them has an acting career. Which makes you ask this obvious question: hey Emily, how long have YOU been married? Not saying their way is the right way, but it undeniably works great for them! Why would they change something that ain't broken?

Anyway, Ms Trainham, when you have been in 20+ years relationship, then you may have the right to judge how other couplings of the same length works. Until then, though...

873 days ago

I applaud Candice. This is how marriages work. Women and men are inherently different and you can't change that. That's what feminism tried to change and all it did was cause cheap sluts who didn't make men work for anything.

872 days ago

if only more ppl would stand by what they if some how being a Christian isn't good anymore however our country was founded on good old fashioned Christian values. not that every one who claims to be a Christian is a good person or that ppl haven't tried to use it in their own way to control others cause those aren't real Christians bf anyone comments on crap like that. but here is a woman in an industry known for sex sells marriage is disposable and the younger the better and some how she has managed to have morals values, and a 20+ marriage that's hard in a normal life so I applaud her and the rest of you should as well. I have been married 8 years to a wonderful man and I let him lead I let him make the decisions we discuss everything together but as I tell him the final decision is always his funny he is the most thoughtful caring man I have ever known he bends over backwards to make me happy I do the same for him, I let him be the man and more importantly he lets me be and feel like a woman...... trust and believe it makes a huge difference

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